The Repeated Hard Moments Parent/Carer Kit helps you move from reacting in the middle of the fire to spotting the repeated pressure point earlier.

It gives you:
printable tools,
visual cues and
simple reflection sheets

So you can build one small Calm Bridge™ pathway that fits your child, your home and your real capacity.

Get the Parent/Carer Kit

This workbook kit may help if your family is dealing with:

School morning refusal
Emotionally based school avoidance, also called EBSA
After-school meltdowns or shutdowns
Screen-time conflict
Homework or bedtime pressure
Sibling conflict
Parent-school tension
SENCO, pastoral or attendance conversations
Repeated emotional overwhelm
A child who seems “fine at school” but explodes at home
Feeling blamed, guilty, exhausted or unsure what to try next

This kit is especially useful for parents and carers of neurodivergent pre-teens and teens, including families navigating ADHD, autism, sensory needs, anxiety, masking, demand pressure or school-related distress.

How it works

The workbook follows a simple pathway:

Notice the repeated moment →
reduce pressure →
choose one support →
repair afterwards →
review what changed.

You can start with one hard moment.

One printable page.
One small support.
That is enough to begin.

Start with one calmer next step

Inside the digital workbook kit

Included:

Main Parent/Carer Workbook
Quick Start printable
Visual Cue Cards printable
Hot Window Map
Parent/carer SENSE™ reflection prompts
Calm Bridge™ Routine Sheet
Repair After Conflict Sheet
Weekly Review Worksheet
School Conversation Prep Sheet
Support signposting and clear boundaries
Next-step routes if you want more help applying the workbook

If you only have
10 minutes?

You do not need to read the whole workbook before you begin.

If you only have 10 minutes:

Choose one repeated pressure point.
Use the Quick Start Card.
Complete one Hot Window Map.
Pick one visual cue.
Try one Calm Bridge™ support.

That is enough to move from “What is happening?” to “What can we try next?”

What is a
Calm Bridge™?

A Calm Bridge™ is a small support that helps your child move from stuck, overwhelmed or escalated towards the next manageable step.

It may include:

Fewer words
A visual cue
A softer transition
A predictable routine
A short pause
A repair phrase
A smaller demand
A clearer boundary
A different order of steps

A Calm Bridge™ does not remove every expectation.

It helps your child reach the expectation with more support and less escalation.

Repair matters after conflict.

Hard moments can leave everyone feeling guilty, defensive or disconnected.

The Repair After Conflict Sheet helps you come back after the moment without shame, blame or over-talking.

It helps you ask:

What happened?
What might have been underneath?
What support was needed?
What needs repairing?
What words can we use now?
What can we try next time?

Repair does not mean pretending the behaviour was okay.

It means protecting connection while learning from what happened.

What is a
hot window?

A hot window is the repeated moment where things often start to break down.

It might be:

The 20 minutes before school
The first hour after school
The transition away from screens
The moment homework is mentioned
The bedtime routine
The conversation after a school email
The point where too many words make everything worse

When you can identify the hot window, you can stop treating every incident as random.

You can start seeing the pattern.

Why visual cue cards help?

During hard moments, words can become too much.

The Visual Cue Cards give simple prompts for low-word, high-stress moments:

🛑 Stop
👀 Notice
🔵 State
🤲 Support
🪜 Step
🌉 Bridge
🧩 Repair

These cards are designed to reduce talking, reduce pressure and make the next step easier to understand.

Prepare clearer
school and SENCO conversations.

If the repeated hard moment connects to school, this kit helps you prepare for conversations with school staff, SENCOs, pastoral leads, attendance teams or safeguarding leads.

The School Conversation Prep Sheet helps you set out:

The repeated pressure point
When it usually happens
Early signs you notice
What helps at home
What makes things harder
What you would like school to explore
Questions to ask in the meeting

This helps you move from emotional overload to clearer information.

Who this is for?

This workbook kit is for parents and carers who want practical, compassionate support for repeated hard moments at home.

It is best for families who want to:

Understand patterns instead of only reacting to behaviour
Support a child who may be overwhelmed, anxious or overloaded
Reduce escalation during predictable pressure points
Use printable tools rather than long programmes
Prepare for school conversations with more clarity
Take one realistic step at a time

Who this is not for….

This kit is not designed to replace therapy, clinical care, safeguarding support, legal advice, SEND assessment, crisis support or professional diagnosis.

If there is immediate risk, significant harm, a safeguarding concern, a medical concern or a mental health crisis, seek urgent support through the appropriate professional, safeguarding, NHS, emergency or local authority pathway.

This workbook can sit around professional support.

It should never delay it.

Buy the digital kit

What you get

Main Parent/
Carer Workbook

The full SENSE™ pathway with reflection prompts, practical guidance and step-by-step support.

Quick Start Card

A one-page printable for overwhelmed parents and carers.

Key rhythm:

🛑 Pause → 🤲 Support → 🪜 One small step

Visual Cue Cards

Printable cards for moments when fewer words help.

Hot Window
Map

A worksheet to help you spot where the repeated pressure point begins.

Calm Bridge™
Routine Sheet

A practical sheet for choosing one support, one phrase, one boundary and one repair step.

Weekly Review Worksheet

A simple review tool using:

Noticed → decided → changed → tracked

School Conversation Prep Sheet

A preparation sheet for SENCO, pastoral, attendance or school support conversations.

Repair After
Conflict Sheet

A printable reflection sheet for reconnecting after a hard moment.

Price - £27

This is a digital workbook kit. No physical product will be posted.

Buy the Repeated Hard Moments

Parent/Carer Workbook Kit

Use this kit to start with one repeated hard moment, one printable page and one calmer next step.

Download the kit

After you buy

Start with the Quick Start printable if you only have 10 minutes.

Then choose one repeated pressure point and work through the kit in this order:

Quick Start Card
Hot Window Map
Visual Cue Cards
Calm Bridge™ Routine Sheet
Repair After Conflict Sheet
Weekly Review Worksheet
School Conversation Prep Sheet

You can use the whole workbook over time, or simply return to the page that fits the hard moment in front of you.

If you need
more support

If your family needs help applying the workbook, you can use it as a starting point for:

Home Pressure Map
Calm Bridge™ Home Install
Family Rhythm Embed
School Conversation Prep
Home–School Bridge Support
Start with one sentence:
“The repeated pressure point we need help with is…”

Email: hello@thehrologist.co.uk
WhatsApp: (+44) 07459 358928
Website: www.thehrologist.co.uk

FAQ

What is the Repeated Hard Moments Parent/Carer Workbook Kit?

It is a digital workbook kit for parents and carers who want practical support with repeated hard moments at home, such as school mornings, after-school meltdowns, shutdowns, screen conflict, homework pressure or parent-school tension.

Is this workbook for school refusal or EBSA?

Yes, it can help parents and carers map repeated school-related pressure points, including school morning refusal, EBSA, anxiety around attendance and difficult home-school conversations. It does not replace professional, school, safeguarding, SEND or clinical support where needed.

Is this suitable for neurodivergent children?

The kit is especially relevant for families supporting neurodivergent pre-teens and teens, including children with ADHD, autism, sensory needs, masking, emotional overwhelm or demand pressure. It focuses on practical supports that fit your child and your home.

Will this stop meltdowns or shutdowns?

No workbook can promise to stop meltdowns or shutdowns. This kit helps you notice repeated patterns earlier, reduce avoidable pressure, choose practical supports and repair afterwards. The goal is clearer pathways, not perfect behaviour.

What age is this for?

It is mainly designed for parents and carers of pre-teens and teens, but some tools may also help families with younger children if the language and supports are adapted.

Do I need to complete the whole workbook?

No. You can start with one repeated pressure point and one printable page. The Quick Start Card is designed for parents and carers who only have 10 minutes.

Is this therapy or clinical advice?

No. This workbook is for education, reflection and everyday family support. It is not therapy, clinical advice, safeguarding advice, legal advice or a substitute for professional assessment.

Can I use this before a SENCO meeting?

Yes. The School Conversation Prep Sheet helps you organise what you notice at home, what helps, what makes things harder and what you would like school to explore.

Is this a physical product?

No. This is a digital download. You receive files to download and print at home if you choose.

What if I need more personalised help?

You can use the workbook as a starting point, then ask about Home Pressure Map, Calm Bridge™ Home Install, Family Rhythm Embed, School Conversation Prep or Home–School Bridge Support.